i am ok, just being reflective
David: doing ok - getting 'er done
oh boy
debbiekalexander: wanting to say the right thing
David: just say it deb
whats wrong?
debbiekalexander: nothing is wrong, i just am thinking about how to handle stuff
seriously you better not even think about leaving me
David: I don't like the effect this is having on you
debbiekalexander: the effect you are seeing is just the initial absorbtion
Sent at 4:19 PM on Sunday
David: i hate to see you unhappy.
sorry taking calls at same time
debbiekalexander: i am not unhappy at all. just meloncholy
David: tell nathan i activated his game account
pls
shrug well we know nothing at this point except they say i need surgery
debbiekalexander: i will let him know
Sent at 4:23 PM on Sunday
David: thanks - ok do you want to discuss it more here?
debbiekalexander: i have actually been writing you an email
David: oh boy
going back to Rick? :P
debbiekalexander: but if it is easier to do it in real time i am fine
David: nah email is fine hon
debbiekalexander: yep...f.u.
lol
David: ow
lol
debbiekalexander: i have my backups...dont worry about me
just kidding
seriously
David: can you send me those pics you took at the lake of mike and kate?
i worry about that too ya know
i want to ruin you for other men =- permanently
debbiekalexander: yep i will forard them to you
i love you for wanting me ruined
David: drimmer@gmail.com if you can
smile
have you talked with susan today?
debbiekalexander: i have been honest with you when i have told you that you are the best lover.
David: i really really want her gone out of the house
debbiekalexander: i mean it
David: i am best?
debbiekalexander: nope haven't talked to susan
you are the best
David: why does that mean so much to men? to me?
debbiekalexander: i love you
David: just so you know i am right now thumping my chest
debbiekalexander: probably becasue you know that i mean it
my hulk
my brute
David: oh yes i do lover
hah
tell jean if you wish or need to
you two are siamese twins anyway
debbiekalexander: i love you more than you will ever realize
David: it's why u put up with my crap
debbiekalexander: i already told jean
David: like meritline
oh
what was her response?
debbiekalexander: jean is pissed off at god
David: good riddance?
oh yeah i knew i liked her
debbiekalexander: she is really upset and wants us to come over
David: me too
i am very pissed
debbiekalexander: it might surprise you to learn that i am not pissed off at god
David: but then i think, shrug, it's just this personal thing he an i have -
she is really upset? that surprises me
debbiekalexander: a lot of people were very angry with god during johns situation
and i never could go down that road
i tried to expain it to paul once
David: well he and I have been arm wrestling a long time - i just never expected him to cheat
Sent at 4:34 PM on Sunday
debbiekalexander: i told him that gods way isn't always our way and we may never understand why some things happen...i assume taht if he wants us to know why things happen then we will learn everything upon our death
he does things in his time and for his reason.
i accept it becasue i accept his love for us unconditionally. it is part of my faith
David: i know and i don't begrudge you for it
debbiekalexander: i have been trhuogh hell and back and know that when he sent jesus here knowing tha he would die a horrible death that he did it to show his love for us.
you and i would say it is crazy talk
David: i don't mess with your faith
i respect it
debbiekalexander: but it is what i believe in to get me by with life
i also believe in prayer and that is why i tell people things that most people keep to themselves
i figure if people love me like i think they do they will offer me and my intentions up in prayer
and that is what will help move mountains
David: i trust you with this info. Btw, you are only person I trust and the only person I would have ever shared infor like this with
debbiekalexander: i blieve you
David: http://kansascity.craigslist.org/fuo/1825612810.html
something like this for the lake house
debbiekalexander: they are pretty but they are for midgets
look how close to the ground they are
lol
David: i know rofl
perfect for your family
debbiekalexander: yu are crazy
David: however - i like the rustic and simple design - just an idea
debbiekalexander: i agree. i just think they would look out of place
David: oh yeah - so close to the ground
Sent at 4:41 PM on Sunday
debbiekalexander: http://www.kmart.com/shc/s/p_10151_10104_00871597000P?keyword=kitchen+table+set&prdNo=2&blockNo=2&blockType=G2
i was thinking of two of these side by side
kind of opposite of your thinking
David: actually like that
can you describe that table you found in the back?
that big one?
debbiekalexander: it looks like it is one that might have a hidden extension underneath it. it has about a 4" apron that goeas all the way around it. dark wood. i didn't see legs at all
David: prob stacked in that room
debbiekalexander: i assume so.
David: http://www.buffalo-lumber.com/pine-paneling.htm
the one on the right is the one i am thinking of - where i like the look
debbiekalexander: i like the looks of that
the one on the left is what my dad finsihed our family roomin the hosue we grew up in
David: hmmm
i love the look in firelight and evening sun
http://www.lowes.com/pd_304509-17587-PMPW08_0_?productId=3056261&Ntt=pine%20paneling&Ntk=i_products&pl=1¤tURL=/pl__0__s?newSearch=true$Ntt=pine%20paneling
debbiekalexander: i just sent you a link on cl for a table and chair set that also has 5 extra bar sttol height chairs
David: i like this horizontal for the walls - perhaps only the bottom third or so and then vertical up the rest of the way
ok checking it now
i would even love it for the ceiling
debbiekalexander: i bet it would be very nice.
maybe too heavy for celing but we could certainly stain luan to do the trick
she even has luan back in the bathroom
David: its 1/3rd inch thick so it may work
the price is high perhaps and if luan is cheaper ...
debbiekalexander: maybe. i figure the ceiling might be the last thing we finish
David: i say so too...
Sent at 4:57 PM on Sunday
debbiekalexander: just fyi i am looking at some cheap but qulaity minded sofas. i sent one to you
David: ok checking
debbiekalexander: flexsteel is an excellent name brand
David: got your email
mrs. rimmer
debbiekalexander: nothing fancy
David: yes it is
debbiekalexander: love you
David: love you too
table is not rustic nor big enough
debbiekalexander: whatever
lol
David: smile
if i had my druthers
i would ax down a giant redwood - eight feet across, cut a 12 foot section, square off the sides and plunk it down in the middle of the house.
debbiekalexander: okay paul bunyan
but really we dont have time
lol
David: smile
i know
hey nothing wrong with flexsteel
and that couch is perfect
debbiekalexander: i sent an email. maybe it is still available
David: yep
the way you are g oing maybe we should put a hitch on your van
debbiekalexander: if we could get two sofas like that a couple of chairs even bring up the stuff from basement it would be perfect
David: yep - rough and carefree - good for night reading and fireside moments
debbiekalexander: absolutely
we need to get this house ready asap so we can have those fireplace moments
David: 3125 Wyandotte St
KCMO 64111
that is the address of the burn barrells
debbiekalexander: okay???
David: i definately want it ready for the fall and winter
debbiekalexander: oh okay
David: i suspect
that we will have good use of it in the winter
i will try and pick some up tomorrow if he is around
debbiekalexander: not the best neighborhood
i will get you some cash
David: hmmm
looks like its just downtown....
I could swing by on the way to work with the trailer - for the price of five each, should i like get 4 of them? just in case?
debbiekalexander: i bet you are right i was thinking it was by VA
David: its off 31st street and linwood blvd
not too far from the new home depot and cost co there
going to lunch - will take phone - be in touch as soon as i get something to eat.
love ya
tell ya what
lets just go on iwth our lives like this isn't happening
debbiekalexander: going to camp. ttyl
we can try to do that
David: just do it matter of fact and let the chips fall where they may
ok camp? you?
debbiekalexander: i will try
David: a bit old ain't ya?
mike was a bit startling today
debbiekalexander: cute. off ot deleiver cpap
what do you mean
he wants to talk about things
David: just blurting it out like that
debbiekalexander: what everything means
what to expect
David: shrug
put me off a bit
debbiekalexander: he is an adult and you are his dad
dont be offended
he just needs to hear from you
David: ok
debbiekalexander: do you want me to tell him to back off
David: i will - tonight perhaps
debbiekalexander: would it make you more comfortable
David: no don't do that
i will set him straight while giving him info
debbiekalexander: ok just checking i want what youwant
ok hon
go eat
i will ttyl
David: thanks - u too . be good - ttyl
Sent at 5:20 PM on Sunday
debbiekalexander: are you online
David: yes
debbiekalexander: i am getting ready to go to bed. katie is sick and puking at camp
David: ouch
debbiekalexander: i also have been reading up on your type of kidney mass
\David: hmmm
ebbiekalexander: they will treat it as a stage 1 cancer regardless of what it might be
they will in all likelihood remove the entire kidney
David: christ
jesus h christ
debbiekalexander: they will or might put you on a regimen of chemo drugs for a time being
David: oh my fucking god
sec - on a call
debbiekalexander: they will likely take a lymph node to see if it has spread
David: oh christ
am i likely to die?
debbiekalexander: the good part is that if it is less than 7cm then it is stage one and there is a 95% survival rate
no death is very unlikely
however we have to put you on a big time diet
it is called a renal diet
you have to pretty much eliminate all phosporus from your diet.
David: he said large mass
i think he said that
he said there is a mass on your left kidney
debbiekalexander: which includes soda, beer, peanut buttger, icecream, cheesse and nuts
i thought you meantioned 4 cm and used the word encapsulated
David: sec - call
debbiekalexander: if both of those terms were used then it is easily stage 1 and very curable
David: no i never said 4 cm - i did say encap
debbiekalexander: encapsulated means that it fits entirely inside and within the kidney
therefore as long as it hasn't spread then you remove the kidney all can be golden
David: within the kidney!
christ
debbiekalexander: i know it sounds scary but it is actually good
David: i had no idea it was inside the kidney
debbiekalexander: it means that hopefully it hasnt spread
David: how painful is it - i mean symptoms prior to surgery?
i mean it aches right now
debbiekalexander: as long as the other kidney is healthy you should be ok
David: does that mean its aggressive?
FUCK A TRUCK!
debbiekalexander: the surgery and recovery will be painful for about a week
David: christ woman
i don't know what to say
debbiekalexander: they wont count it as aggressive unless it is stage 3 or 4 and even then it might be slow growing
David: you think my changces are good?
overall?
don't lie to me
debbiekalexander: however since the doctor said they caught it early and that it was encapsulated it is indicative that it only a stage one
David: i mean don't suger coat it
christ
debbiekalexander: you have a very good chance of completely getting rid of it
David: God must really hate me
debbiekalexander: and never getting it back
are you listening to me
you have a good chance
David: sheesh, all i said was he had to keep his cards above the table where everyone can see them
debbiekalexander: of beating this
David: holy shit
debbiekalexander: i wont lie to you
but you will have to quit smoking and we wil have to change our diet
David: i know but i don't want anyting sweetened either
debbiekalexander: i am not sugar coating anything
David: it aches right now - is that typical ? or somatoform stuff?
debbiekalexander: i did this research so that i could be prepared as to what we were up against
not uncommon for you to have flank pain
David: i know - i have been too ...
afraid to look into it
debbiekalexander: if you were a smaller man we might even be able to see and palpate it
that is why you have me to do the investigative stuff
David: christ - SEE IT?
debbiekalexander: you will have surgery soon, probably within a week.
and be in the hospital for 2-6 days
and light duty for 6 weeks
David: christ on a crutch
what happens if i ignore it and just go on with my life? and hope for the best?
debbiekalexander: followed by frequent follow ups and maybe chemo
then it will grow, maybe fast or maybe slow. this type can metasisize to your lung, bones, liver or brain
we are going to be proactive and aggressive and use our karate to kick its ass
David: how do you figure out what type it is?
debbiekalexander: just saying
David: our karate is strong...
debbiekalexander: if it is between 0-4 cm and encapsulated it is stage 1
if larger than 4-7 and encapsulated then stage 2
if it has spread to lymph nodes or adrenal gland then stage 3
if it has spread to a distant organ then stage 4
If the cancer is limited to the kidney, the 5-year survival rate is estimated as 90%. If it is found in a local lymph node, the survival rate drops to 60%. If it has spread to a distant organ, the 5-year survival rate is 9%. The overall survival rate for someone with kidney cancer averages 63%.
David: on phone with brian right now
debbiekalexander: so in a nut shell i know know exactly what to pray for
ok babe
Sent at 11:21 PM on Sunday
David: got to go for now sweetheart - so go to bed
debbiekalexander: okay hon. wake me when you get in
i love you
and just fyi i am not afraid
Sent at 11:25 PM on Sunday
David: i am - i am completely terrified
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